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Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Why be a woman, when you can be a man?

In the musical "My Fair Lady," Henry Higgens sings to his friend Colonel Pickering, "Why can't a woman be more like a man?"  because men are so friendly, virtuous, etc.  But what I really want to know is, why be a woman when you can be a man?

I read an article that disturbed me a bit about the "Red Pill" which is one of the new terms for the so-called men's rights movement via the website "A Voice For Men."  The article, titled "From woman to man to red pill" discusses the perspective of a woman who hated her female body and transitioned to becoming a man.  I was thinking, OF COURSE someone who hated being a woman could turn into a red pill man.

Monday, June 15, 2015

ABC's "The Goldbergs" is my version of "The Wonder Years"

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Even though I've already seen some these episodes, I'm always inclined to watch them again, and enjoy them just as much - if not more.  This is how I know that I think its good.

In this episode, Adam lied about how he broke his arm - typical kid stuff.  He says he broke it riding a hoverboard, that skateboard thing from from 1985's Back to the Future.  But really, he broke it making a video of himself dancing to "Faith" by George Michael.  WHAM and NKOTB are some of Adam Goldberg's guilty pleasures - which means he's just like every other 80s kid.  He could have said he broke it making one of his videos without revealing his secret guilty pleasure.  (Adam F. Goldberg got really famous, the end, so shut up.)  ...but then, that would be the end of the story, and a whole lot more boring, right? 

Meanwhile, Beverly (mom) struggles with being jealous of Dave Kim's mom, whose family just opened a Chinese restaurant.  Oldest sister, Erica, teaches Adam how to lie better, but he can't take the pressure.  He finally tells the truth to save his friendship with his best friend, Emmy.  She is still mad, but he then tells her this gem that reminds me of my own crazy family: 

"I get it.  You said it yourself.  We're more than just friends.  We're family.  And, in my family we fight, scream, and we make horrible mistakes that go way too far.  But an hour later, we're fine.  That's what it means to be a Goldberg.  And, like it or not, you're one of us."  Not only that, the family makes up with Mom and they go out for Chinese.  And Emmy comes over to pledge her friendship, because, after showing the class his Wham dance video, he's going to need all of the friends he can get.

Now, pass me a box of tissues because that was sweet.  And that Sean Giambrone kid playing young Adam Goldberg is absolutely adorable in the way that I wish I had a kid like that.  I hope he's that adorable in real life and doesn't turn into a putz with a big head.  I never got "The Wonder Years" when I was the age of the children on it.  It was boring and I couldn't really relate.  Maybe with the Goldbergs being Jewish and my cousins also being Jewish, I feel like I have more in common with them.  Though, if Adam Goldberg's family got over things in an hour, they are lucky.  It usually took mine a few days of stewing.

This is my version of my own wonder years - even though I'm getting it as an adult looking back on an imperfect, sometimes painful childhood.  And this is why I don't mind watching the episodes again in ways that I probably wouldn't bother with other sitcoms - except for Square Pegs with a young and adorable Sarah Jessica Parker as a loveable loser.  Now if someone can just let me know where I might watch reruns of Square Pegs, I would be happy about that, too.


I would be even happier if Adam had an episode where he explains being Jewish to his Christian cousin (like I remember doing with my cousins) because I really wanted a bat mitzvah when my cousin had hers.  I thought it was so cool.  I'm not sure if Adam has had his bar mitzvah on the show, but that might be a fun episode.  Though, the real Beverly Goldberg has tweeted that the show is not about being Jewish, so I might have to insert my own memories about what that was like for me.  I married a Jewish guy, after all.  My cousins love that and have made me their honorary sister by calling me their last name.

OMG, seriously, her tweets are just like she is on the show!
And don't forget your umbrella/sweater/gloves... she's just like my mom.

The only thing I don't like is the reference to trophies for showing up, but I will explain that in another post.

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Goodbye to Welmer & the disappeared Spearhead

The whole manosphere thing was interesting.  First there was a guy named Welmer - or at least that was his blog handle.  Then he started writing under his real name, WJ Price.   And then, somewhere in there he started whining about the legal system.  And then it turned out that Price was proud of his "deadbeat dad" status and stopped paying child support and/or alimony.  And somewhere in there I lost respect.

Look, I know that the legal system doesn't like people to represent themselves.  Most people do not know what paperwork to file, don't do it right, don't dress properly, and generally do not know how to behave in court.  It's like church from 100 years ago, not the rock 'n' roll blue jeans church of today.

Sunday, May 31, 2015

The great summer bikini-ready body coverup (modesty, fat, or skin cancer)

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That's not Gidget's mother!
You don't have to be a religious modesty nut to want to stay covered up at the beach.  What if you're more of a sun hater than a sun bather?  Nowadays there are more options for sun haters than ever. If you ever caught episodes of Gidget starring a youthful Sally Field, she came with a sidekick called LaRue who used coverups, blankets, hats and stayed under a protective umbrella. I used to be more of a Gidget.  What went wrong???

My quest to find modest beach wear is mostly about feeling totally embarrassed about my body holding extra poundage that I can't get rid of in my current state of health.  Injuries and pain forced me to give up my gym membership and my habit of walking a few miles a day, and hours of dance classes & going out dancing with friends.  Add hypothyroid and it's basically GAME OVER.  Well, fearing overexposure from my early years of swimming all day without sunscreen, and I'm your typical Christian hypochondriac. 



Saturday, May 9, 2015

How to stop credit card offers in the mail

If you're like me, you're tired of getting endless credit card offers in the mail.  While I'm a fan of the Unites States Postal Services and certainly want them to stay in business, I'm tired of dealing with credit card offers I don't want and never go for.  I'm the type who shops for stuff online when I want it.  I finally decided to read the fine print on a Discover card offer and it directed me to an online opt out site called www.OptOutOnline.com.  It's legit, so I'm directing you all there.

If you want to opt out of catalogs and other direct mail offers, check out www.DMAChoice.org.  Read up on both at their respective websites.  In some cases, you will have to write to companies directly if you have ever ordered from them in the past.

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Do we like Skye more now that she's Quake on Marvel's Agents of Shield?

Taking Skye from hot female hacker trope woman to Quake has its positive points.  Many discussed, including my husband and I, that she is the "Mary Sue" of Marvel's Agents of Shield both literally and figuratively.  She talked about having been at St. Agnes (the same convent where Daredevil was raised).  It was there that the nuns renamed her Mary Sue Poots.  I sometimes wish I made this stuff up!  I admit that I was not actually the first to notice this about her.  We see just about everything through her eyes.  She's got this annoying level of wide-eyed innocence and everyone tries to protect her.

Monday, May 4, 2015

Can plastic surgery go too far?

I just watched Ana Kasparian and some guests discuss that its basically fine to have plastic surgery.  In some ways I agree.  But I disagree that it's not hurting anyone.  It may help someone feel better about themselves for awhile, but it's not a guarantee of future happiness.  I'm sure you're wondering why I would say such a thing.

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Diet Savvy - The Mayo Clinic Diet Sucks

If you're like me, you have reason to be concerned about your weight.  I decided to read up on as many diets as possible to see where these diets fail and where they work.  I can' help but notice that there is an inherent prejudice toward dieters.  We are fat because of specific reasons, according to the Mayo Clinic diet.  And if you don't fit those reasons, I'm wondering if you can actually be helped by this diet.  I got totally stuck at the opening quiz because I could not answer that ANY of these were my problem:

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Daredevil doesn't have much Hell in the Hell's Kitchen of 2015

In case any of you watched the recent release of Daredevil on Netflix, it was pretty fun.  But there are some historical (and even social) context issues that were bothering myself and another blogger.



Wednesday, April 22, 2015

For girls who pine for archaic courting times

Things were so much better 100 years ago.  Women were courted with respect, right?  Well, maybe not.  And maybe naughty.  Relationships were sometimes much the same as they are today - confusing as heck.  And sometimes, even men from what we all imagine were simpler and more pure times would definitely not live up to your expectations.  Even then, there were plenty of dude who just wanted to take advantage.  As you already know, I'm not against going out with a guy in PUBLIC to see what he's about.  If he makes reference to the kinds of things on these cards, ditch him fast.


James L. Gallas, Kissing Rogue

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Do you need an aquaintance card?

Before Facebook, online dating, and even before those dark times of Friendster, how on earth did people meet?  Why, with the acquaintance card.  It's just like the old classroom note, "Do you like me?  Circle YES/No."  But this is better.  Perhaps it might go over well at church.  Of course, I found that at church, men were afraid to ask a woman out unless god gave them a sign that they ought to be married instead of just going out for the heck of it and having a nice conversation with no strings.

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Hey Missouri, since when are steak and seafood so fancy?

This is what happens when a bunch of dudes who don't do the shopping for their families make the decisions about what people can and can't buy.  In Missuori, lawmakers seek to ban the purchase of "cookies, chips, energy drinks, soft drinks, seafood or steak."

My question is quite simple... since when are steak and seafood "luxury" items?  1 lb of hamburger goes for about $5.99 per pound and some cuts of beef cost about that.  Buy that meat in a family pack and its even less.  If you want a leaner meat, you're going to pay a higher price.  If you've been shopping lately, you know this.  And hamburger has many opportunities to be tainted at some point in processing.  In other words, it's not very good for you. So, what steak do we mean?  Just filet mignon?

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Can you "Live Below The Line" on $1.50 per day?

Recently there has been a lot of attention directed at food stamps and food stamp recipients. Mostly, people are concerned about the abuse of government benefits.  But the world poverty line is even lower than you'd expect.  Many people only have $1.50 a day to spend on food.  April 27 to May 1 many people will try to do just that.  Live on $1.50 per day through the Live Below The Line Challenge.  You can also choose to donate to groups such as Heifer International, The Hunger Project, and Poverty International.  The kids at my church put money in a piggy bank so they can sponsor a poor beast for Heifer International.

Personally, I think this is better than the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge.  Anyone can dump a bucket of ice over their heads.  ALS is a rare disease.  World hunger is more universal.  I think I might actually just go ahead with a donation.  Commit to the plan with friends so you can pool our resources.  It always goes a little farther that way.  Unfortunately, there's just the two of us, so we get $15. 

Some ideas:

Ramen noodle diet:
I can't use this option because I think I might be undiagnosed with Celiac disease considering the amount of problems I've had from eating wheat products.  If you search around, you can get Ramen noodles for as low as 25 cents each.  You can buy a dozen eggs to add some protein, cabbage for some vitamins, and some Sriracha rooster sauce for flavor.  This actually can get expensive and the high salt content is not very good for you.


Lotsa Pasta
Similar to the Ramen noodle diet, you can buy plenty of pasta for relatively little coin and get multiple servings.  However, if you are restricted from eating wheat products, this is not for you.


Tacos Mexico plan:
$5       1 family pack of chicken drumsticks (usually $1 a pound for conventionally raised caged fowl.)
$2       Family pack of tortillas (Less if we made from scratch.)
$2       Brown rice
$1       Farmer's market cabbage

$1.50  Farmer's Market carrots (ditto)
$1       Spices from home, jalapenos, garlic
$1       3 Onions
$1.50 soft tomatoes (cheaper at the Farmer's market

Hmmm...
Unfortunately, the stuff I was trying to grow will not be ready for the challenge.  This would not necessarily save costs, since you are supposed to account for any expenses, such as water. You can use things you already have, but you have to account for their costs.  In a way, this isn't fair. If you buy some bulk pack at Costco, you are not going to have the same costs per pound.  Since my current family is only 2 people, I can't justify bulk purchasing on that level.

The smaller your "group" the harder this is.  If you have a large family, you can buy more food to distribute with a greater number of people, hence the cost per person goes down dramatically.  This makes the food stamp challenge alot more realistic.


Actually, I think I might need to give more thought to the diet for this week...  I'm obsessed with what I'm going to eat and if I really want my meals to be those things for an entire week. I'm also very concerned about sustainable and ethical sourcing.  Once I go with the $1 a pound chicken, I'm sure I'm taking a step down from free range and organic.

Anyone else thinking about this?  Drop me a comment.

Friday, April 10, 2015

The mysterious beer hangover and why I went gluten free

Go gluten free?  You're joking right????   Let me explain....

I recall complaining to a friend that I felt really hung over after having only one beer.  The response?  It was what you'd expect.  "Sure you only had one beer."  There was no point to insisting.  One beer does not equate with a hangover for the majority of people.  I had a mystery on my hands, and I didn't even know it.  I learned to stop complaining about these mystifying beer hangovers.  If people weren't going to believe me, there was no point in talking about it. 

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Flip This House Boston

Not feeling well and decided to watch some of the newish home design shows on the FYI channel and on the . I'm starting to wonder what the purpose of cable is.  It's like we're paying for public access television.

I just watched a houseflip where the design ideas just didn't make sense.  They had a unit with an upstairs and downstairs.  For the upstairs unit, they took the double doors off off of the old living room or dining room to turn it into the bedroom, cutting off the option for people to change it if they wished.  What if they only need two bedrooms and would have liked those double doors for better flow and ease of moving things in and out.  It didn't make sense. 

They redid the kitchen, but none of the new appliances matched the colors.  The new appliances were white and the cabinets were ivory.  They didn't even look very nice, and seemed to date back to the 1980s.  What's the point of doing it if you do it badly?  You can make a profit with things that look nice.

Actually, alot of these design shows do alot of things that don't make sense.  In updating to the latest trend, it will just look terribly dated in just a few years.  Today's granite counters are tomorrow's white formica.  Today's stainless steel is tomorrow's avocado.

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Saturday, February 21, 2015

Sometimes there isn't the happy ending with the kids

2 years ago, I got married.  Congratulations to me.  What everyone wants shortly after marrying is to start a family.  Maybe not everyone, but most people.  What I learned is that you don't always get that.  Some people go to a fertility doctor and are able to get the help they need.  I have some friends who did this.  They learned they couldn't get pregnant because of low sperm motility, but with IVF (in-vitro fertilization) they now have three children.  It was a very emotionally painful process for them.  My friend couldn't understand why I didn't burn with envy at seeing her being a mommy with her children.  I thought my time would come.

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

10 things I learned about going gluten free

There seem to be a number of people declaring that gluten is the source of great evil and causes inflammation in the body.  This inflammation is supposed to trigger an autoimmune response which leads to MORE inflammation as well as arthritis, infertility, allergies, and even weight gain.  So, the new thinking is that you ought to try a gluten-free diet just for a month and see how it makes you feel.  If you re-introduce wheat products and it causes no reaction then you have discovered that this isn't the cause of some of your health problems.  Since I'm one of those people who seems to gain weight without any effort despite a reasonable diet, I decided it was worth it.  I also have really horrible allergies which I have been hoping would improve.  Here's what I discovered:

Monday, December 1, 2014

Savvy timeshare sales presentation survival skills

They usually prefer married couples fora timeshare presentation.  But if you're single and make a certain level of income, then they will still take you. After all, you might have tons of friends who want to stay with you. You also might be a wealthy lawyer or a doctor. (Not that those people actually have time to get away.)  They are going to try to sell you on feelings and memories, as well as the potential for future feelings and memories.  I have many fond memories of time spent on vacation, some of it at actual timeshares.  Work this right and you will walk out with some prizes, work it wrong and you will find yourself a timeshare "owner."  Here's a little story...

Monday, October 6, 2014

Stuck in the friend zone? Rethink it.

Sometimes guys get angry that they are stuck in the friend zone.  Some even go so far as to feel they "deserve better" or are "owed" something more from the object of their affections.  Are they?  Please check out this video of a guy's slam poetry reading.

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Are contraceptives killing your dating life?

The pill made me sick.  I tried it to help control other medical conditions such as bad periods, and thought about it when I got married, but wouldn't go back to it if I could help it.  I never used contraceptives and I had a horrible time finding a suitable mate.  Although, I do think that if a women takes contraception, she becomes more likely to consider the option of dating a man just for now or consider having sex with someone they might not choose if they knew they might get pregnant if they had