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Monday, October 6, 2014

Stuck in the friend zone? Rethink it.

Sometimes guys get angry that they are stuck in the friend zone.  Some even go so far as to feel they "deserve better" or are "owed" something more from the object of their affections.  Are they?  Please check out this video of a guy's slam poetry reading.

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Are contraceptives killing your dating life?

The pill made me sick.  I tried it to help control other medical conditions such as bad periods, and thought about it when I got married, but wouldn't go back to it if I could help it.  I never used contraceptives and I had a horrible time finding a suitable mate.  Although, I do think that if a women takes contraception, she becomes more likely to consider the option of dating a man just for now or consider having sex with someone they might not choose if they knew they might get pregnant if they had

Website connects Catholic young adults in New York City

If you signed up for email updates with Archdiocese of New York, you would already know about it.  This is one place in the Christian world with a forward-thinking attitude to help young adults meet through the power of an online website.  When I say meet, this isn't a dating website, but a place to find other inspiration such as a mass, Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, a religious-oriented event, a Bible study, or even such mundane and worldly things as a roommate.  Those needing medical attention can even find a Catholic doctor for those who would prefer to be treated and advised within the tenets of their faith.

In case you didn't know, NYC is home to some of the largest cathedrals in the United States, filled to the brim with the faithful every Sunday.  If you are Catholic and living in New York City or thinking about moving to New York City, it's your go-to gateway to get plugged in.  Good luck!  It's a jungle out there.

www.CatholicNYC.com

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Thursday, July 3, 2014

Too entitled to be dateworthy? Or just young and foolish?

Is it Amazon that's killing a woman's Seattle sex life?  Maybe it is. Maybe it's not.  This article caused quite a stir with many people coming down on the writer of the article about her age or not being that cute anymore.  Well, a word about love - size, shape, age, and attractiveness often have nothing to do with finding love.  Being attractive can help, but that's not the root of Tricia Romano's dating woes.  It's a matter of men not developing their personalities because they think all women really want is money.  It's not true.  What Tricia Romano really wants is companionship and adventure.

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Sometimes I hate design shows like Fixer-Upper

Like all of us, I sometimes give in to the temptation of watching HGTV for kicks and caught an episode of a new show called Fixer-Upper.  It's good fun most of the time - except when the fixers have no concept about cool architecture.  For this post about fixing up an unsellable house, I feel like they went overboard on denegrading the old style, which was actually cool.  They found old photos of the house in its prime, minus the people.  They don't show all of the cool features of the house, but they do show some of them like the old fashioned wet bar, atrium, and loft.  Some of the stick with these midcentury houses was bringing the outdoors in.  And though the house was built in 1973, it seems much more like a late 1960s house.  You don't get to see the entry courtyard, but it is covered by a roof which has a hole for a tree to grow through.  Let's just say, if the house were in California, it would have had no problem selling at all.  It also looks like they updated a few things in the 1980s.  Also, let' just say that what the did to "update" the house is going to be just as dated in a few short years thanks to changing tastes and styles.  I'm still upset about the atrium being walled in.  And that they got rid of the multistory fireplace.  I wish this house had been on the market where we were looking.  We would have restored it.

Book Review: Diary of a Country Priest

Hey friends, I thought I'd try something new and review a book I found particularly moving in suprising ways.  I know what you're thinking if you're a Protestant...  Why read a book about a priest?  Well, it's not like that. I think, if you let yourself, you'll see that we have far more in common in regard to faith between Catholic and Protestant than some church leaders might lead you to believe.  My review:

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Having problems with California Injury Lawyer or Orange County Law Group? Me too.

Well friends, I have an active worker's compensation case out there.  And, wouldn't you know it, I have a problem with the lawyer that was supposed to be representing me.  I couldn't get in touch with him at all to make an appointment.  There is a collection attempt on a bill related to the case because he didn't take care of it. Half of the staff is no longer working there.  And the attorney isn't keeping me or any of his other clients informed of relevant contact information.  Does this sound like you?

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

ABC's Mistresses: Karen is pathetic

There are some actually good aspects to the show.  It really isn't about women wanting to be Mistresses.  It is about real people going through real things.  However, sometimes the characters make outrageously dumb choices.  This week, it's Karen again.

Monday, June 23, 2014

5 Reasons Why Many Guys Stay Single, or the Camel Test

I read this post on Diary of a Super Champ and I was like, what?  It was called "5 Reasons Why Many Guys Stay Single."  While it was all good advice, the Biblical example was off.  Why is the Camel Test relevant?

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Get out of the friend zone - some advice for the single dudes.

Sometimes a guy in the friend zone has no one to blame but himself.  Yes, I'm talking to you who go around thinking you're a "niceguy."  There was a group of guys I was friends with in college.  I was open to dating some of them, but they never asked me out... I sort of got together with one of them, but, well, it was weird.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

It's Dear Abby's turn to give online dating advice

A woman wrote in to Dear Abby to express her frustration with the online dating world.  And her advice was spot on!  So I'm going to go back through her advice and give my own opinions.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Stop fighting over the bathroom by getting a bedroom vanity


Recovering from surgery means I have been watching alot of TV.  Currently, some of my favorite shows include those design shows on HGTV - Home and Garden Television.  One of my gripes is that it's mainly about the home and not much on the garden.  One of the frequent (and very expensive) new things is that everyone in the family wants their own bathroom, or roommates feel cramped sharing.  But the real problem is not how many bathrooms or how large the bathroom is, but how the bathroom was intended to function.

I got married on the cheap

So friends, it happened.  My fiance and I got married.  Instead of going with a big wedding, we decided to go to the courthouse.  It was by appointment, hit all the legal points, and still made us feel special.  It also qualifies as one of the smallest weddings ever.  It was my husband, myself, my best friend from when I was 2, my parents, and his mom.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Sympathy for the Devil: Miscasting Elliot Rodger as a nice guy gone wrong.

There is a lot gone right with this article.  Please check it out!  I can sympathize with feeling rejected.  I recall becoming a little angry when I wanted to salsa dance with someone and they would tell me no because I'm not that hot, or because they didn't want to date me.  I just wanted to dance because I was doing it for exercise.  Oh well, those days are over for me with salsa dancing.  My point is that feeling angry or rejected doesn't always lead to shooting a bunch of people and that guys who consider something like this aren't nice guys at heart.

http://www.examiner.com/article/sympathy-for-the-devil-miscasting-elliot-rodger-as-a-nice-guy-gone-wrong


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A Former PUA reflects on Elliot Rodger and male anger

This made me feel relieved that not all men are sitting in their rooms, writing manifestos, and planning on "going Elliot."  I understand it's hard not to sympathize with his feelings of being rejected.  But he is not you.  I hope we might learn the difference between an actual "nice guy" and one who will go ballistic when provoked.


A Former Pickup Artist Reflects on Elliot Rodger's Anger

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Monday, June 2, 2014

Don't date a man who asks for nude selfies

Though this post has been out there for awhile, the kind of man who would ask for nude selfies can be particularly detrimental to a woman.  And the men who read the blog Chateau Heartiste might be best avoided.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

MyEbay credit card fails me

I have an Ebay credit card which links to my Paypal.  This should be great - except for the fact that they keep shutting it down because getting gas triggers fraud, buying stuff online seems to trigger fraud, in fact everything seems to trigger fraud.  I have to call every month for them to turn it back on so I can use it.  And the fraud dept is only open during "business hours."  I can't figure out why this is important when I'm calling India which is halfway around the globe and their business hours are about when I am calling.

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Wednesday, April 23, 2014

The dreaded Single-Gender Singles Retreat

I just got a notice from my old church singles group, the one I stopped going to because I felt it lacked a level of maturity necessary to addressing the problems of real life singles.  This time there was a notice celebrating the Single-Gender Singles Retreat.

Seriously folks!  What straight singles really need is time with their same gender.  This is the ultimate solution that singles ministries can come up with?  If anything, what singles who want to marry need are skills for dealing with the opposite sex.

Oh, and forget about the gays.  They most certainly won't feel included in this kind of retreat, though, I can assure that there are many single gay people attending church and seeking a place in God's kingdom.  I really wonder what the church is thinking this will accomplish.  I can, however, imagine some gay and lesbian couples quietly getting together. I can also imagine that if the retreat is conducted simultaneously, that there will be more than a few who want to be around the opposite sex and jump the fence to the other side or text each other constantly.

I'm out. The last retreat I found seriously annoying for its attempt to create community and force us all into sharing more than we felt comfortable sharing with people who weren't really our friends and weren't going to be our friends.  I left the retreat halfway through it.

I finally unsubscribed to the newsletter.  I don't even know why I hadn't done it before.

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Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Women's health is more than just contraception

As it has been for many years, people absorb themselves in arguments about whether or not they should provide contraception as part of their company health plans, and whether or not they can get a religious exemption if they aren't a religious organization, but are Christians.  Such health matters are difficult to regulate.  But the real issue is that women's health means more than that.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

What the church doesn't tell you about fertility and having children

You've been waiting for the perfect guy.  And now you think you have finally found him.  It's not that you put your career first.  It's just that you have to have a career nowadays if you aren't marrying right out of high school.  You have to think about how you will support yourself and be a wise steward of your time and resources.  You get busy and start saving, like a smart woman should.  You pray and hope, but you don't sit there and read Bride's or name your future children.  You see friends having babies.  You wait.

And like all Christian girls, you pray to meet the right man.  I mean, forget Mr. Right or Mr. Perfect.  You were even realistic looking for Mr. Right Kind of Man.  You said no to the Mr. Wrongs.  And then you finally did meet him.  And you got married at 35, or even older...  Is it wrong to hope that God will still bless you with children?