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Thursday, July 3, 2014

Too entitled to be dateworthy? Or just young and foolish?

Is it Amazon that's killing a woman's Seattle sex life?  Maybe it is. Maybe it's not.  This article caused quite a stir with many people coming down on the writer of the article about her age or not being that cute anymore.  Well, a word about love - size, shape, age, and attractiveness often have nothing to do with finding love.  Being attractive can help, but that's not the root of Tricia Romano's dating woes.  It's a matter of men not developing their personalities because they think all women really want is money.  It's not true.  What Tricia Romano really wants is companionship and adventure.

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Sometimes I hate design shows like Fixer-Upper

Like all of us, I sometimes give in to the temptation of watching HGTV for kicks and caught an episode of a new show called Fixer-Upper.  It's good fun most of the time - except when the fixers have no concept about cool architecture.  For this post about fixing up an unsellable house, I feel like they went overboard on denegrading the old style, which was actually cool.  They found old photos of the house in its prime, minus the people.  They don't show all of the cool features of the house, but they do show some of them like the old fashioned wet bar, atrium, and loft.  Some of the stick with these midcentury houses was bringing the outdoors in.  And though the house was built in 1973, it seems much more like a late 1960s house.  You don't get to see the entry courtyard, but it is covered by a roof which has a hole for a tree to grow through.  Let's just say, if the house were in California, it would have had no problem selling at all.  It also looks like they updated a few things in the 1980s.  Also, let' just say that what the did to "update" the house is going to be just as dated in a few short years thanks to changing tastes and styles.  I'm still upset about the atrium being walled in.  And that they got rid of the multistory fireplace.  I wish this house had been on the market where we were looking.  We would have restored it.

Book Review: Diary of a Country Priest

Hey friends, I thought I'd try something new and review a book I found particularly moving in suprising ways.  I know what you're thinking if you're a Protestant...  Why read a book about a priest?  Well, it's not like that. I think, if you let yourself, you'll see that we have far more in common in regard to faith between Catholic and Protestant than some church leaders might lead you to believe.  My review:

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Having problems with California Injury Lawyer or Orange County Law Group? Me too.

Well friends, I have an active worker's compensation case out there.  And, wouldn't you know it, I have a problem with the lawyer that was supposed to be representing me.  I couldn't get in touch with him at all to make an appointment.  There is a collection attempt on a bill related to the case because he didn't take care of it. Half of the staff is no longer working there.  And the attorney isn't keeping me or any of his other clients informed of relevant contact information.  Does this sound like you?

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

ABC's Mistresses: Karen is pathetic

There are some actually good aspects to the show.  It really isn't about women wanting to be Mistresses.  It is about real people going through real things.  However, sometimes the characters make outrageously dumb choices.  This week, it's Karen again.

Monday, June 23, 2014

5 Reasons Why Many Guys Stay Single, or the Camel Test

I read this post on Diary of a Super Champ and I was like, what?  It was called "5 Reasons Why Many Guys Stay Single."  While it was all good advice, the Biblical example was off.  Why is the Camel Test relevant?

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Get out of the friend zone - some advice for the single dudes.

Sometimes a guy in the friend zone has no one to blame but himself.  Yes, I'm talking to you who go around thinking you're a "niceguy."  There was a group of guys I was friends with in college.  I was open to dating some of them, but they never asked me out... I sort of got together with one of them, but, well, it was weird.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

It's Dear Abby's turn to give online dating advice

A woman wrote in to Dear Abby to express her frustration with the online dating world.  And her advice was spot on!  So I'm going to go back through her advice and give my own opinions.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Stop fighting over the bathroom by getting a bedroom vanity


Recovering from surgery means I have been watching alot of TV.  Currently, some of my favorite shows include those design shows on HGTV - Home and Garden Television.  One of my gripes is that it's mainly about the home and not much on the garden.  One of the frequent (and very expensive) new things is that everyone in the family wants their own bathroom, or roommates feel cramped sharing.  But the real problem is not how many bathrooms or how large the bathroom is, but how the bathroom was intended to function.

I got married on the cheap

So friends, it happened.  My fiance and I got married.  Instead of going with a big wedding, we decided to go to the courthouse.  It was by appointment, hit all the legal points, and still made us feel special.  It also qualifies as one of the smallest weddings ever.  It was my husband, myself, my best friend from when I was 2, my parents, and his mom.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Sympathy for the Devil: Miscasting Elliot Rodger as a nice guy gone wrong.

There is a lot gone right with this article.  Please check it out!  I can sympathize with feeling rejected.  I recall becoming a little angry when I wanted to salsa dance with someone and they would tell me no because I'm not that hot, or because they didn't want to date me.  I just wanted to dance because I was doing it for exercise.  Oh well, those days are over for me with salsa dancing.  My point is that feeling angry or rejected doesn't always lead to shooting a bunch of people and that guys who consider something like this aren't nice guys at heart.

http://www.examiner.com/article/sympathy-for-the-devil-miscasting-elliot-rodger-as-a-nice-guy-gone-wrong


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A Former PUA reflects on Elliot Rodger and male anger

This made me feel relieved that not all men are sitting in their rooms, writing manifestos, and planning on "going Elliot."  I understand it's hard not to sympathize with his feelings of being rejected.  But he is not you.  I hope we might learn the difference between an actual "nice guy" and one who will go ballistic when provoked.


A Former Pickup Artist Reflects on Elliot Rodger's Anger

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Monday, June 2, 2014

Don't date a man who asks for nude selfies

Though this post has been out there for awhile, the kind of man who would ask for nude selfies can be particularly detrimental to a woman.  And the men who read the blog Chateau Heartiste might be best avoided.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

MyEbay credit card fails me

I have an Ebay credit card which links to my Paypal.  This should be great - except for the fact that they keep shutting it down because getting gas triggers fraud, buying stuff online seems to trigger fraud, in fact everything seems to trigger fraud.  I have to call every month for them to turn it back on so I can use it.  And the fraud dept is only open during "business hours."  I can't figure out why this is important when I'm calling India which is halfway around the globe and their business hours are about when I am calling.

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Wednesday, April 23, 2014

The dreaded Single-Gender Singles Retreat

I just got a notice from my old church singles group, the one I stopped going to because I felt it lacked a level of maturity necessary to addressing the problems of real life singles.  This time there was a notice celebrating the Single-Gender Singles Retreat.

Seriously folks!  What straight singles really need is time with their same gender.  This is the ultimate solution that singles ministries can come up with?  If anything, what singles who want to marry need are skills for dealing with the opposite sex.

Oh, and forget about the gays.  They most certainly won't feel included in this kind of retreat, though, I can assure that there are many single gay people attending church and seeking a place in God's kingdom.  I really wonder what the church is thinking this will accomplish.  I can, however, imagine some gay and lesbian couples quietly getting together. I can also imagine that if the retreat is conducted simultaneously, that there will be more than a few who want to be around the opposite sex and jump the fence to the other side or text each other constantly.

I'm out. The last retreat I found seriously annoying for its attempt to create community and force us all into sharing more than we felt comfortable sharing with people who weren't really our friends and weren't going to be our friends.  I left the retreat halfway through it.

I finally unsubscribed to the newsletter.  I don't even know why I hadn't done it before.

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Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Women's health is more than just contraception

As it has been for many years, people absorb themselves in arguments about whether or not they should provide contraception as part of their company health plans, and whether or not they can get a religious exemption if they aren't a religious organization, but are Christians.  Such health matters are difficult to regulate.  But the real issue is that women's health means more than that.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

What the church doesn't tell you about fertility and having children

You've been waiting for the perfect guy.  And now you think you have finally found him.  It's not that you put your career first.  It's just that you have to have a career nowadays if you aren't marrying right out of high school.  You have to think about how you will support yourself and be a wise steward of your time and resources.  You get busy and start saving, like a smart woman should.  You pray and hope, but you don't sit there and read Bride's or name your future children.  You see friends having babies.  You wait.

And like all Christian girls, you pray to meet the right man.  I mean, forget Mr. Right or Mr. Perfect.  You were even realistic looking for Mr. Right Kind of Man.  You said no to the Mr. Wrongs.  And then you finally did meet him.  And you got married at 35, or even older...  Is it wrong to hope that God will still bless you with children?

Saturday, February 1, 2014

U2's Bono, reflections on the difference between karma and grace

I'm reblogging this because I thought it was a wonderful excerpt from Bono's book.  Yes, he's sellig something.  I'm amazed at how much he reflects on Christ.  Maybe, like the rest of us, he's a fallen human being who didn't rest perfectly in grace.  I think many of us desire karma for the bad people and grace for the mostly good people.  Grace doesn't work like that.

“It’s a mind-blowing concept that the God who created the Universe might be looking for company, a real relationship with people, but the thing that keeps me on my knees is the difference between Grace and Karma…
 
You see, at the centre of all religions is the idea of Karma. You know, what you put out comes back to you; an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, or in physics – in physical laws – every action is met by an equal or opposite one.  Its clear to me that Karma is at the very heart of the universe.  I’m absolutely sure of it.

And yet, along comes this idea called Grace to upend all that “As you reap, so will you sow” stuff.  Grace defies reason and logic. Love interrupts, if you like, the consequences of your actions, which in my case is very good news indeed, because I’ve done a lot of stupid stuff.

That’s between me and God. But I’d be in big trouble if Karma was going to finally be my judge. I’d be in deep shit. It doesn’t excuse my mistakes, but I’m holding out for Grace. I’m holding out that Jesus took my sins onto the Cross because I know who I am, and I hope I don’t have to depend on my own religiosity.

The point of the death of Christ is that Christ took on the sins of the world so that what we put out did not come back to us, and that our sinful nature does not reap the obvious death. That’s the point. It should keep us humbled….its not our own good works that get through the gates of heaven…
If only we could be a bit more like Him, the world would be transformed.  All I do is get up on the Cross of the Ego; the bad hangover, the bad review. When I look at the Cross of Christ, what I see up there is all my shit and everybody else’s. So I ask myself a question a lot of people have asked: Who is this man?  And was He who He said He was, or was he just a religious nut?  And there it is, and that’s the question.  And no one can talk you into it or out of it.”

All text taken from Chapter 11 of Bono on Bono: conversations with Michka Assayas, 2005 (Hodder).  Buy the book.

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Friday, January 17, 2014

Swagbucks savvy - beware the traps and find the good stuff

Ah, the internet!  That place where scams abound.  You can rest assured that Swagbucks is not a scam.  You will actually be able to cash in your "bucks" for a payout.  The way that it works is that advertisers pay to post on the Swagbucks site and Swagbucks pays part of that out to you in exchange for being advertised to.  It's better than being advertised to for free.  Swagbucks does the same thing that Bing, Ebates and other online rewards programs offer with a few enhancements.   And note my links are in pink-including the titles!

Swagbucks pays you to shop online.  If you shop by clicking through Swagbucks, you can get a kickback.  Swagbucks might be offering 3 Swagbucks on the dollar for shopping at some website.  They say it's "better" than 3% cash back, but it's actually exactly like 3% cash back, which is 3 pennies on the dollar.  Spend $100 bucks and you get 300 Swagbucks, which we know is $3.  In fact Savvy shoppers know they ought to shop around for cash back because you can often get a better offer through Ebates, or Big Crumbs.

Swagbucks pays to sign up for services you might otherwise order.  Hulu, Netflix, Freecreditscore.com, Equifax, and others give you a kickback.

Swagbucks pays extra on store coupons Every coupon you clip and actually use pays an additional 10 Swagbucks, or 10 cents extra on every coupon you use.  That's an extra dime just for using theirs instead of another coupon resource like Coupon Cabin, etc. These are THE SAME COUPONS as you see in the paper and online.  That's an option I recently explored and it actually worked on things I actually buy.

Swagbucks pays you to watch videos.  You can pick from a channel you are interested in.  Choose from health, fashion, entertainment, pets, travel, whatever strikes your fancy.  My favorite are the movie trailers.  I also just watched a few interviews with Selena Gomez and Taylor Swift on their music channel.

Swagbucks has a toolbar. In fact they pay you one Swagbuck a day for downloading it and using it.  That's $3.65 per year essentially for free.  The toolbar even has extra videos you will get paid to watch.

Swagbucks pays you to search - something you already do for free.  You can get paid a few pennies for your time watching videos you might otherwise be watching through their toolbar which you can also download for free.  Searching for links and stuff just for this post, I earned 11 Swagbucks.

Swagbucks has paid surveys.  There are companies out there who will pay for your opinions.  It's not really enough, but it is a great time waster if you have some time to waste and want to share your opinions about dog food you buy and the like.  There are worse things you could be doing with your time.  Just remember, a Swagbuck is worth a penny.  Penny for your thoughts?

Swagbucks has game downloads.  Yep, for those addicted to the online games, Swagbucks has a selection that included Bejeweled Blitz, Scrabble Cubes, and Wheel of Fortune.  You can use Swagbucks to buy a level and stuff like that.

Swagbucks has a credit card which pays 1.25 Swagbucks for every dollar spent.  Yes, that works out to 1.25%.  As far as rewards cards go, that's not too bad.  And you can earn even more if you use your Swagbucks card to shop online.  You get 1000 Swagbucks as a bonus just to start using it. Remember, that's just $10.  Other credit cards give bigger bonuses.  Where they really make the money on this is where all credit cards make their money, monthly fees and interest for those who run a balance.  If you pay it off every month, you will get 1.25% back.

Swagbucks pays for you to answer a daily poll 1 swagbuck a day.  It's not much, but they are usually fun topics.  What they really want is for you to be on the site and using it.

Swagbucks has FREE mobile apps.  In a jetset age, you can take Swagbucks with you whereever you go and earn more stuff.  These downloads will be a great timewaster while you are standing in line, or waiting for your date to get back from the bathroom.  Beware the data charges you might incur if you watch too much Swagbucks TV.  Enjoy Swagsearch and Swagbucks.

Swagbucks has a heart. You can donate all of your Swagbucks to charity if you want.  Swagbucks has partnered with Unicef, the Red Cross, Charity:Water, Humane Society, Typhoon Haiyan relief, Treecycler, Interpid Fallen Heroes, Gavi Alliance, and even allows you to pick someone through Charity Choice.  If these are among some of your elect causes, this does about the same thing as Goodsearch.  In fact, Swagbucks got its start trying to raise money for charity.

Swagcodes bring in more Swagbucks via social media.  You can find Swagcodes on Swagbucks twitter and Swagbucks Facebook pages.  Miss them and they don't work.  You can also end up wasting some time looking for them, just like you and I so often waste time on the internet doing things we ought not be doing.

Beware Trap # 1 - Swagstakes.  One of the ways that they keep their money is by promising that you will get more.  You can give some of your Swagbucks back to them by entering "Swagstakes" or Swagbucks lotto. Yes, you could win.  But the way gambling works is that more people lose.  Advantage Swagbucks.

Beware Trap #2 - Swagbucks accelerator Superusers can increase their earnings by 33% for an extra fee, of course.  It only pays if you really use it.  Pay $4.99 and they will give you and extra 700 Swagbucks.  (You pay 5 to get 7, or just $2 extra.)  You can sign up for the Accelerator Plus which costs $9.99 and will give you up to 1500 Swagbucks.  (Pay 10 and get 15, or just $5 extra per month.)  But that's the limit of what they will match.  If you don't use Swagbucks for an extended period of time, or don't maximize your use, not only do they not double very much, you have signed up as a subscriber for a real service that charges you while giving you nothing.  Advantage Swagbucks.

Beware Trap #3 - Swagbucks Visa card.  A credit card can be a beautiful thing and the rewards plentiful.  But you absolutely must pay it off on a monthly basis.  Carry a balance and you will be paying high interest.  Pay late and you will knock out the value of your rewards with late fees.  Since most people carry a balance or pay late, advantage Swagbucks. 

But, you may also spin your wheels for a small payout.  They call them "Swagbucks" but it doesn't take a genius to see that each of these "bucks" is only worth about a penny.  The only one really making the Swagbucks here is owner/co-founder/co-CEO Scott Dudelson who bought a mansion in Malibu, and his co-founder.

Swagbucks has a referral program.  If you must sign up, please sign up through my link as a thanks for being honest with you about the real scoop on Swagbucks.  I will get 1000 Swagbucks for that.  And, doing the math, that's $10.  I won't be getting rich here.  I wish I had a link customized to this blog, but it will go to my alter-ego Keep Musicking.  swagbucks.com/refer/KeepMusicking


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Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Tauriel is just the kind of kickass The Hobbitt needed, plus a dash of starcrossed love

Seriously, love Evangeline Lilly as Tauriel.
Let's be honest.  We already know that this one just isn't for the Tolkien purists.  The Hobbitt went off the rails in the first installment.  And there's no going back now.  They brought Legolas back into the action.  The first film seemed bloated with action and lacked character development.  I've decided to embrace the chaos. 

And in this installment, instead of Kili and Fili helping Bilbo to find the door to the mountain, instead of camping in the Mirkwood forest for a month with dwarves establishing their characters through sharing their lore and singing their songs to each other, we got Tauriel played by Evangeline Lilly.   Really, it seems like a fair trade.